Saturday, October 13, 2007

New Book Recommendation

Check out this new book 'That Bitch: Protect Yourself Against Women with Malicious Intent', by Roy Sheppard and Mary T Cleary (Centre, 2007).

There is an interesting review of the book here.

The book is a survival guide for men (and women) on how to protect themselves against a (Roy is at pains to stress) small group of vindictive, violent or self-serving women who use and abuse partners, colleagues and even children.

Roy - a former journalist turned presenter, author and conference host - started pondering over coffee one day how many male acquaintances, who he regarded as thoroughly decent types, seemed to be being mistreated by manipulative mates or taken to the cleaners in bitter divorces.

"This is a terrible situation that a lot of guys get into and there is evidence that some commit suicide because of it.

Finally he discovered evidence that supported his suspicions - a site called AMEN run by Mary T Cleary (his co-writer). Mary used to work in the A&E department of a Dublin hospital and who had been shocked by men who would come in with serious injuries that they would attribute to accidents.

"They'd say things like 'I fell down the stairs' or 'I walked into a door' but as Mary said to me, you don't get a stab wound in the back from falling down stairs."

Roy and Mary include the startling statistic in their book that a survey conducted by the Marriage and Relationship Counselling Service in 2006 said mutual violence accounted for 33 per cent of domestic cases, male-perpetrated violence 26 per cent and female-perpetrated 41 per cent.

This should not come as any great surprise to anyone. The scientific evidence on Domestic Violence is extensive and unambiguous, and contradicts the received wisdom on every detail. However, the Domestic Violence industry is dominated by radical feminists who do everything in their power to stop the truth from getting out.

"It is for people who just don't know what to do, especially if they are a nice guy who will go out out their way to make their partner happy. The type of women we are talking about will target the soft touch. They see them as weak when in fact they are just being nice.

"These sort of guys, and I do know a lot of them, they are too accommodating. They think of it as being kind and generous but in a perverse way the woman sees it as being weak.

"They can make things so impossibly difficult the man is eventually pushed into leaving or having an affair, simply because he has a need for intimacy, like everyone else. Then she can turn round and say 'I am a victim. Give me sympathy' when in fact she has set this up deliberately."

Mary Cleary describes the book's subjects as "domestic terrorists" preying on the "good".

The behaviour of these self-serving harpies he says is damaging to other women, even if they are not their intended targets.

He sites the case of the girl who claimed she had been attacked by a cab driver simply because she wanted to get out of paying the fare.

"When you make false allegations or cry wolf you create an environment when others are disbelieved a little bit more."

This is another self-evident truth which the feminist movement goes out of its way to ignore. This has always mystified me: why feminists insist on endorsing and concealing destructive female behaviour even when doing so is going to make things worse for women generally. Child abuse and domestic violence perpetrated by females, and false allegations of rape are the best examples. The fact that the feminist movement condones such behaviour calls its entire credibility into doubt.

"I think women who are aggressive or bitchy haven't got any other options. They may have intellect but they are misusing it."

Roy believes while some of it may be the result of a natural volatile temperament, it could also be a continuation of the cycle of abuse they themselves had suffered as children.

"They had no ability to defend themselves and they learnt how to very effectively later in life, even in circumstances when they very genuinely don't have a reason to. But they don't realise that because they are constantly in a state of threat."

Even though the men being attacked might be physically stronger, they don't usually fight back - either it has been drummed into their nature not to hit a woman or they fear their partner could then accuse them of abuse and they could up losing access rights to their children in a split. The book very clearly indicates that in law, when it comes to divorce "the cards are stacked against the husband".

The fact that the book attempts to probe the psychology of abusers in an honest way is highly commendable, but it is not always the case that abusers were abused themselves. I haven't had a chance to read it yet, but it appears that the authors have not taken into account the existence of Anti-Social, Borderline and Narcissistic Personality Disorders - in other words, Psychopathy - which unquestionably account for a great deal of this behaviour.

Bizarrely, the title is so controversial that it cannot be used in the USA. Over there, it goes by the name of Venus: The Dark Side, and much of the book's website, and the review, are given over to a justification for using such a title.

"There is hardly any man (or woman) who has not suffered at the hands of the women we describe in this book, and hasn't at least muttered our title under their breath at some time. Therefore the title is highly appropriate.

Reasonable women do not have a problem with our book because they know it is NOT about them. And any woman who claims that it is offensive to ALL women is simply wrong. Or she recognises that it's about her and she wants to mislead or distract others away from her own malicious behavior."

The double standards become clear when you consider that the Guardian publishes, on the front page of its magazine section, openly hate-filled articles such as the recent one by Germaine Greer entitled "Do we really need men?" I couldn't find the original on-line, but there are plenty of references to it, such as this article by a female blogger who includes it in a discussion of 'trash' she has read recently. A mainstream national newspaper front-pages with an article entitled "Do we really need men?". This sounds like something straight out of Hitler's Germany. If we saw a German newspaper from the 1930s with a headline reading "Do we really need Jews?", we might be horrified, but we certainly wouldn't be surprised. If the Daily Mail said "Do we really need blacks?", there would be legal action in the courts, and rightly so. Deploy this same language against men, however, and it is perfectly acceptable. Of course Greer was swaggering to impress the girls, but that doesn't make it any more acceptable, and the fact that she would stoop so low to advance her careeer is utterly contemptible.

If you're in any further doubt, just go and look for some feminist quotes online. The message seems to be "I can criticise you, even up to the point of calling for your extermination, but you can't criticise me at all".

Someone writes a book entitled 'That Bitch', and it is too hot to handle. How absurd. Interestingly, Jackie Collins wrote a trashy chick-porn novel called 'The Bitch', and that was considered perfectly acceptable. There is also a feminist tract called 'Bitch', by Elizabeth Wurtzel. No-one seems to mind about that.

One wonders if it is the book's agenda, rather than its title, which is ruffling American feathers.

Add this book to your reading list. Arm yourself.


paddybrown said...

The book suggests abusive women were abused themselves. You suggest they have personality disorders. I'd suggest a third possibility - they're just spoiled.

byrdeye said...

Yup, so true!