Saturday, April 03, 2010

On Stalking

A reader who chooses to remain anonymous sent me a link to this story in the Guardian regarding ‘stalking’.

I am slightly perplexed as to why they should have done this, or what relevance they think it has to my blog.

The most likely explanation is that they have been taken in by (or subscribe to) the Guardian’s dishonest misrepresentation of the issue.

A quick look at the final paragraph gives us a clue: “Do you have any personal experience of being stalked? Do you have strong opinions about the current laws regarding this crime? The Women's page invites your comments for possible publication. Just email”

The Guardian is trying to present stalking as a “wimin’s issue”; stalking is one of the bad things that evil, dirty, boorish men do to good, noble and pure women. It’s disgraceful, and it must stop now! Women of the world unite! Our strength lies in sisterhood! United we stand! Divided we fall! To arms, comrades! Revolution!

The truth, however, is somewhat different. I’m not an expert on this, but even a quick internet search reveals articles such as this:

These Boots Are Made for Stalking: Characteristics of Female Stalkers, by Sara G. West, MD, and Susan Hatters Friedman, MD, August 2008.

“Meloy and Boyd[19] collected data on 82 adult women who had engaged in stalking assesses one of the large groups of female stalkers found in the literature.

Typically, the perpetrators were Caucasian, heterosexual, single women with a mean age of 35 (ranging from 18–58 years old). Often, these women did not have children. They appeared to be educated, with a large majority having graduated from high school and a solid minority having achieved a college or graduate degree. Their intelligence may have allowed them to be more successful in pursuing their victims.

Reports of substance abuse were not common, but about one-third of women used substances while stalking. Available data suggested the presence of Axis I and II disorders...Same gender stalking was more frequent among women than men. Women and men appeared to stalk their victims for a similar duration of time“.

Despite the Guardian's headline assertion that "Stalkers are criminals – not 'incompetent suitors'", it seems that a proportion of them are in fact incompetent suitors.

West and Friedman categorise stalkers into several types including "The incompetent stalker. These stalkers (n=22) lacked appropriate social skills and knowledge of courtship rituals but hoped that, regardless of these deficits, their behavior would lead to intimacy".

Another quick search on celebrity stalker cases reveals a high proportion of female offenders and male victims.

An interesting case mentioned is that of Colin Farrell, who was stalked by a woman called Dessarae Bradford: “Bradford sought two apparently fabricated suits against the Irish actor in the past two years - courts dismissed both cases. In May, she also sued Farrell in federal court for libel, assault and slander, seeking $10,000 in damages. Farrell received a restraining order on July 22 from Bradford.” Bradford is making herself out to be the victim in this case, and get this – she has a restraining order against him.

It is that much easier for Bradford to attack Farrell legally, it is that much more difficult for Farrell to defend himself, because of the false expectations about stalking that the feminist movement is busy creating.

The kind of ideologically-motivated distortion of the facts perpetrated by Left-wing, feminist publications like the Guardian helps to protect and assist female stalkers, and to make life more difficult for male victims. By promoting a false impression that stalking is something that men do to women, we are seeing the standard line of feminist cant. We have seen this before with regard to domestic violence, child abuse, any issue, in fact, that the feminist movement can get its hand on. Feminists have absolutely no regard whatsoever for the truth.

The truth is that people who engage in stalking behaviour are suffering from mental illness. Of course they should be treated, and of course their victims should be protected, but that is not what the feminist movement is concerned about. It is concerned about getting more power and money for itself, and it is happy to exploit the issue of stalking, just as it has exploited many other issues in the past. How else am I supposed to understand their involvement? Do they think that if all the women get together and shout loud enough, stalking will just go away?

I thank my correspondent for bringing the issue to the attention of the men’s movement.

Do you have any personal experience of being stalked? Do you have strong opinions about the current laws regarding this crime? Heretical Sex invites your comments for possible publication. Just email

Sunday, March 28, 2010

The joke’s on you if you’re male and Right-wing

From Peter Hitchens' blog

"I don't much like UKIP or its ex-leader Nigel Farage. I’ve called UKIP a ‘Dad’s Army’ party for years. So I was quite flattered to see that ‘Interviewer of the Year’ Camilla Long used my phrase in her extraordinary interview with Mr Farage.

But I was then puzzled to see that she spent a great deal of energy on the fact that Mr Farage once suffered from cancer and had a testicle removed as a result.

She even rang him up afterwards to ask which one it was. He took this in good part.

But should we?

Can you imagine what would happen to a male journalist who interviewed a liberal female politician who had lost a breast to cancer, made that the jokey theme of the resulting article, and rang her up afterwards to ask which breast it was?

Can you picture the outrage of the cancer charities, the wild storm of fury on Twitter, the pink-ribboned crowds gathering outside the newspaper’s office? But because Mr Farage is male and his cause is ‘Right-wing’, you can do what you like".